Different Definition of Submission

Sorry it's been so long since I updated here especially after the last post.

For those who are curious, yes, I shared the last post with Hunter. We talked a lot over several days and just tried to take things slow in processing what was going on. We both agreed that we wanted to get back on track and that we both definitely want this DD life even with its ups and downs.

One of the things Hunter asked me to do to help us get back on track was to write an essay sharing my definition and/or qualities of a submissive DD wife and what I felt I needed to do to attain being that person. That was a lot harder than I thought, but this is what I wrote.......

"I'm not sure I'd label these as qualities of solely a DD wife, but more of a Christian wife in general or even a Christian woman. For that description, I would say: Honest, trustworthy, submissive but not a doormat, forgiving, assertive but not agressive, gentle and loving. A woman who builds up vs. tearing down but can still shoot straight with people when needed. Let's face it, I am never going to be a meek, mousy, passive wife and you wouldn't want me to be that way either, I don't think. Just as much as I want to be the above things though, I also want to feel loved, honored, respected, safe and cared for.

As far as how to go about becoming those things, the first thing I need is a determination to work for them. The second thing is your help and support. Several of these things will involve me releasing some of my need for controlling every situation as well as a willing spirit when it comes to correction and constructive feedback.

I dont' want to be a bratting and testing DD wife, but feel I am worth expecting some consistency and commitment on both of our parts."

Now the big surprise was that when I gave this to him, he said that he didn't think it sounded very submissive. I was like, Huh????? Well, then it dawned on me. Maybe our ideas of submission aren't the same. See, I don't believe that the term submission in relation to a husband or wife can be a straight black and white definition. I think it is very subjective and can differ a great deal from couple to couple.

So, what now? Well, we are working on defining submission for us. He has shared with me what his views of submission are and I have shared mine, so now we need to find a common ground that defines it for US and then decide what it is we want to see happen as a result of living a DD life.

We're still taking it slow and we're both really trying to give our best which has made a huge difference in our interaction :)!!

April