Thursday, September 30, 2010

God's Design or Kink?

I know the physical act of spanking and the domination that goes with it can be a "kink", but is there another reason for it being a turn on.

I've made no secret of the fact that our decision to practice DD is associated with our faith and the mandate that the husband is to be the head of the home.  So, while I believe that DD is good for us and something that works for us, I don't believe that the Bible argues for or against the spanking part of DD. Make sense?

The physical side of DD has been on hold here now for about five months due to me being pregnant and then having the baby.  Something I did notice though was that even though the spanking wasn't happening, we were still very much living a DD lifestyle. He is still the HOH, there's just not any spanking going on.

There have been a few times where I have crossed the line with my behavior or my attitude and he has put his foot down.  For example:  A few weeks ago we were rushing around trying to get ready for a weekly activity which always ends up in chaos and one of the kids didn't have everything they needed. I was very irritated and felt like I hadn't gotten enough help from him in getting them ready to go and said to him, "That's it! From now on the computer goes off at 5:45! Period!"  I was nasty and disrespectful, no question and did feel bad later. A few hours later, we were home and he said to me, "You don't tell me what to do like that ever again," or something to that effect.  I felt bad for speaking that way but at the same time his reprimand really turned me on. It also had a calming effect on me that he stepped into his role in the marriage and took charge.  I felt safe.

I've heard men say that they are very turned on when their wives are submissive.

So, my question is... are we turned on because of a kink or because we are living the way God designed?  Did God design us to be rewarded with a turn on when we follow his plan?

I would really welcome any feedback here as long as it is respectful. :)

April

Anyone left out there??

Hello :)
I'm not sure if there are any readers left out there in cyberspace, but no, I have not dropped off the face of the planet.

Life has been a tad crazy here. A few months ago, we added a new baby to our already chaotic household so my time has had to otherwise prioritized.

We'll call this "Blog Adventure Take 2" and see what happens. Hope you'll come along for the ride.

April