My niece has this t-shirt that my SIL finds so cute. The front says "Daddy says No" and the back says, "But Mommy says Yes".
This weekend, we were out and saw a little girl wearing a shirt that said "Daddy is the boss.... until Mommy gets home."
It's no wonder so many of us feel in the minority by living in a male-led HOH marriage. The critics are hitting us right and left and now they are going after our daughters all in the name of humor.
TV is the same way. It seems as if the majority of sit-coms have the intelligent, organized, "get it done, soccer mom", but Dad is a bumbling idiot who has no idea what goes on in the house let alone any say in the matter.
Ladies, if we truly believe in this lifestyle and not only the DD part of it, but the very idea of the husband being the HOH, then boy do we have our work cut out for us in raising our daughters!
If anyone has any suggestions and/or stories of how they promote the HOH lifestyle in their homes, feel free to share :).
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Nice to see you blogging again! I was starting to worry WEG!
As for the TV aspect of the bumbling male, I just reminded my daughter that like anything else on TV it's 'entertainment' and not 'reality'. It's meant to be funny because it's 'so not real'.
There does seem to be this idea that in order to be 'equal' we have to be more like a man. Equal right and equal pay are great, but being equal should also mean the right to be equal in our choice of how we want to live our lives. I 'chose' to have him be HOH, I 'chose' to follow his example, I 'chose' to live DD... doesn't that mean I'm equal in my right to chose?
~ Terri
Hi! Great Blog!
I've thought of this issue many times myself. Essentially, I try to change the world when it comes to this a little step at a time. When someone's saying why "Everyone Loves Raymond"'s so cute, I tell them why I hate it. "I feel like that show tried to demasculate our husbands one at a time."
Furthermore, when someone makes a joke about the "wife being boss", I say immediately, "If there's a boss, it'd be James. I can tell him to do anything he wants, but he's makes the last notion."
People, of course, can get so boggled with just saying something like that, that there's always an uncomfortable silence, like having your husband as HOH is such a horrifying prospect! But you gotta be proud that he's "in charge", too, or else people will think that you're a battered wife. People and their thinking. Psh. :)
If you must watch TV, watch the classics, Leave it to Beaver, I love Lucy, Bonanza, Little House,etc, Men portrayed as strong but the women are not bumbling idiots. But the best is children learn by example, and the example set in your home is a strong loving husband and father, and a happy and loving wife and mother..
C
I agree completely, I have two step-sons, they are both dealing with this exact problem. They get absolutly no respect, and these girls keep pushing for more and more. One doesn't seem to mind, but the other really does.
It is because of the examples that the tv has put out there, another good example of a bad example is "Home Improvement"
Hi, I just discovered your blog. I'm not in a CDD lifestyle, but I understand why some of you are and won't criticize. :-)
Anonymous in July '09 is right - just don't watch TV. :-) Don't let your kids see shows that portray such dysfunctional families. I don't like "Raymond" either; there was so much mutual disresepct, not just of the men, but of the women as well - my husband, on the other hand, thought it was funny - probably because he's Italian and could relate to some of the things. I don't really know.
I do not allow my children to watch television, except for one PBS children's show that is helpful for the little ones learning phonics. If it's simply too hot to go outside in the summer (we have days well over 100 degrees), we have a small selection of DVDs that I permit on a limited basis.
We homeschool, also, so that also prevents a lot of problems. My husband teaches them catechism and history every evening he possibly can, despite his awful working hours and having to drive in a car with no air conditoning. :-( He refuses to buy another used car with air conditioning because he wants to be sure our van which I use is running well, so he puts extra money into making sure it runs well...meanwhile I get to worry about him passing out in the heat in the summer.....
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