I've had a revelation this weekend. I consider myself pretty submissive with my husband, but after he pointed out some hesitancy to do as he asked WHEN he asked, I really had to ask myself. Am I as obedient as I claim to be? The honest answer is No. While I generally do what he asks of me, I have to admit that if it's something I don't' really want to do right then, that I won't. If I do manage to do it right then, I can't seem to do it without some attitude whether it be vocally or even in body language or I will do it when I am ready to do it versus when he tells me to do it. Or maybe, I'll do just enough of what he said to make it look like I complied. For example, being sent to the bedroom to bare my bottom, pick out a specific implement and wait for him. Okay, I'll probably go to the bedroom and even get the implement, but when he comes in, there's a 90% chance that my bottom will still be covered.
So, my husband is now on a quest to increase my obedience and submission standards. There will be swift and hard consequences for failure to obey completely for the time being until I can prove to him that I am genuinely trying versus still trying to have things my way under the guise of submission.
If anyone has any thoughts on this, I'd love to read them. Add a comment and I'll reply as soon as I can.
Have a great week :).
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I am struggling with the same thing.......I think that i am being submissive and yet....there are some things that are not lined up.
I have been working on my additude/facial exspressions. Not interrupting things like that.
I hope that the stricter rules will help you....I know I need them..but hubby is to stressed with other things right now.
Blessings,
Sophia
"he pointed out some hesitancy to do as he asked WHEN he asked"
Do you think this might be because, at some level, you know it isn't right for one person to have dominion over another?
I will pray for you. I sincerely hope that you will be able to find your own path in life and that it will allow you free will and agency.
All the best and please take care of yourself.
Anonymous,
No, I don't agree that it's not right for one person to have dominion over another. What about teachers, our world leaders, parents, bosses at work, etc... everyone lives in subjection to someone. God commands me in scripture as a wife to live in subjection to my husband. Thank you for the well wishes :)! I am taking care of myself and doing just fine :).
Sophia,
Good luck on improving your submissive side. I think so much of our hestitance can come from the outside pressure for women to be in charge today. We're not doormats by any means, but there is a certain peace that comes from living in a marriage the way God designed it, don't ya think? :).
April
I'm new to this site and I'm curious about some of the particulars of discipline within a traditional Christian marriage. If you have children, are they aware of the discipline? The earlier post indicated that she didn't want to ask for a spanking in front of children. Or is that up to each couple. It seems to me that if God wants wives to be submissive to their husbands, then it's a good thing to train children up in that tradition.
Also, can a submissive wife work outside the home and still live within a traditional marriage?
And how forthcoming are you with others about your discipline practices. Do you find it's safe to share with other Christians only?
Sorry to ramble on, I just have so many questions! Thanks
Sarah
Yes I do agree with you.
My heart is to fully serve and be submissive for my Husband. and it makes me very sad that there are so many women out there who think it is all about them.
The change that is happening in me is very evedint in my husbands eyes and he is very happy to see it. It makes me very happy to choose submission more then control.......am I making any since?
Sophia
Sarah, I'm going to try and answer all your questions here, so bare with me, lol....
Yes, our children are aware that Dad has the final words in the decisions around here, but no they are not aware of the discipline aspect and we are careful that they are not made aware of that. My children are too young to understand that part of our marriage as of yet. I dont' know if we will share this with them as they get older or not, that is something we will have to give careful consideration to in the future. So, even though they dont' see the spanking part, they do see me defer to him if we can't agree on something and they see us work together to make the best decisions for our home. For example, last week, there was some debate on an outfit our daughter wanted to wear and I explained that I wasn't totally comfortable with it and that Daddy and I would have to talk about it and let him see it to decide if she would be able to wear it or not.
Yes, I believe that a woman can work outside the home and still live in a traditional marriage. I know many women who do just that. However, we have chosen to make do on one income so that I am the one home with our children during the day. If I could make a salary that would allow me to support our family better than my husband then he would be more than willing to be a stay at home dad.
As much as I would love to share our lifestyle with our family and friends, its' just not a good idea in this day and age. There are too many that just dont' understand and would use this as ammunition to make trouble for those involved because they dont' understand it, so we keep it under wraps, but I also dont' go around sharing all the details of my sex life either, there are some things that are better kept between a husband and wife.
Hope this helped and thanks for the questions :)!
Sophia, you are making perfect sense :)! Glad to see things are going well!!
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